We steal attention using unresolved threads. The Auto-Reflective Self fears irrelevance, deploying ambiguous pendants to colonize others' minds and validate its own existence, sacrificing intimacy.
The Self fears fading. We leave things 'pendant'—unresolved—to hijack attention. By denying closure, we force others to carry us in their minds, validating our existence through their thoughts.
The Autoreflexive Self theory: Self as dynamic, inferred perception driving actions. This loop integrates feelings, emotions, and thoughts, optimized by a reward system to minimize error.
